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Work Life Balance and Three Reasons Why You Don’t Have It

Which is Easier to Find…A Sasquatch or Work Life Balance?

 

I won’t be home on time for dinner.  I’ll try to make it, but this meeting may run long.  I know we had plans for the weekend, but it’s due Monday morning.  There’s no time for the gym with a sixteen hour day!  Any of this sound familiar?  I listened to this throughout my career in the corporate world.  I found executives who maintained a great work life balance, but not that often.  Line and middle management are better, but the ambitious ones struggle.  The same applies to individual contributor SME’s serving as the last escalation point.  Fear, lack of time management, and digital distraction are the three reasons I encounter most that kill the work life balance we deserve.  Learn to “say no” and stop giving into fear, practice time management, and guard against digital distraction.  Read on to find tips that will help you make this a reality.

Fear is our biggest challenge.  Today’s common acronym FOMO, or the Fear Of Missing Out, is applicable in this discussion.  In this case we’re afraid of missing out the following:

• promotion
• great review
• recognition
• protection during layoffs
• closing the deal

All of these are legitimate reasons, because they can affect our livelihood, but do we have a strategy or filter on when to say no?  Can we create strategies to guard against being in these situations in the first place?  If you’re promoted because you work twenty hours a day, then that’s the ongoing expectation that will be set.  This is not sustainable nor healthy.

commit to prioritizing your life over work

Focus on promoting by adding more value.  Create a sound plan around doing it with a healthy balance of time.  Commit to prioritizing your life over work and especially outside normal business hours.  Start practicing a new skill…”Say No” when someone asks you to work when it would compromise your life.  You can always get to it the following day or someone that cares less about balance can work on it.

Any high-performing individual without a high-performing system is leaving a lot of time on the table.  Time management and discipline are critical parts of any organizational system.  They help set and maintain your brand with respect to being on time, following up, never dropping the ball, and more.  You may be getting it done, but at what cost?  Most likely your own life and sharing it with your loved ones.

You may be getting it done, but at what cost?

Effective time management will help even the most effective professional either get more done or find some much needed rest.  A calendar is not just for tracking meetings.  Commit to tracking your work there as well and you’ll find less conflicts for your time. Complete your work during business hours with this practice.  Leverage the practice to free up your time for life.  Read more on time management in my post on how to find more time in your day.

In our always-on world, most people will not turn it all off.  They’ll look at the last email, or text, or notification.  I’ve certainly been guilty of looking at email right before going to bed and taking another thirty minutes to research and respond.  Learning to turn it off did wonders for me.  I was more engaged with my family, got more sleep, read more, and enjoyed other hobbies.  Who does not want or deserve this!?

Learning to turn it off did wonders for me.

We only have one life and you’ll want to say you filled it with much more than a career, email, and sixteen hour work days seven days a week.  Turn off notifications and use your new time management skills to schedule time to review all of these “important” things.  Communicate your new practices to others to make sure they know to call for emergencies.  Read more on how to manage distraction in my post about cognitive junk food.

Work life balance is available to those willing to practice some new skills.  Contact us today to help you achieve this sooner than later!

Five Tips to Give You More Time to Reach the Next Level

I can’t find time…how about More Hours in the Day?

 

“When this project is over”, “when the kids are out of school”, or how about “after I get settled from…”?  These are examples of the many “reasons” I hear that prevent people from doing something important to them.  More often than not, we don’t start at those “opportune” times and our goals continue to slide.  Anyone that has spent enough time around me has heard me say “we don’t find time…we make time”.  We’ll never find more hours in the day, but we can create them with new habits and improved self-awareness.  The good news is it does not have to be a struggle!  Learn and use these basic time management tips and you’ll be able “find time” the time to accelerate your career or learn something new that will add value to your life.  This is your opportunity to recover from your busy life and get organized again!

The Problem with Notifications

Most of what we experience throughout our day is engineered to grab our attention and hold onto it.  What are we being pulled away from and for how long?  Aside from the obvious time loss of being pulled away, there’s a high cost to context switching.  According to a study from Inc., it takes an average of 25 minutes to resume a task after interruption.  If we’re focused on the slides our boss needs to review before the big presentation, then do we really need to see the latest email?  Is it best for our career to be constantly distracted by notifications or to stay focused and on task?  Can you really be organized if your attention is constantly being pulled away?  Read more on this topic in my post about cognitive junk food.

Can you really be organized if your attention is constantly being pulled away?

Turn them off!

When I ask my clients what will happen if they ignore the email I usually hear silence followed by “I don’t know”.  The reason they don’t know is because they’ve never really tried to find out.  After a bit more discussion and logical thought, most people realize they’ll receive a phone call if it’s truly an emergency.  From this realization it’s just a matter of learning a new way of operating.  For this situation we can take advantage of “do not disturb” features on smart phones that will allow some calls through and block the rest.  This allows us to disable email and instant messaging notifications.  By disabling these kinds of notifications we can stay on task longer with no distraction.  What other notifications can you disable?  This time management tip will help you “find time” that you did not realize was lost.

The value of scheduling your work

Most of us have very busy calendars packed full of meetings.  A typical corporate culture assumes you were doing nothing if your calendar showed to be open.  It’s hard to argue against attending that meeting when you look and show the time to be free.  How would you feel if it showed a conflict with “Create outline for the biggest presentation of my life”?  Two things happen here and the first is you’re feeling conflicted, because you know how important the presentation is.  Here’s the second critical benefit to being organized in this way.   Everyone scheduling meetings will now see these kind of conflicts and look for another time!

Protect Your Time

Management and executives tend to to be in more meetings than most, but that does not mean they don’t have other stuff to do.  Do yourself and your career a favor and “MAKE THE TIME” to do it, before someone else takes it.  My experience inside and outside of large companies is that many people are not great at planning ahead and those around them suffer from their last minute meetings.  If others are not going to be organized, then you really should be.  Protect your ability to execute against your priorities and goals by scheduling the time to do the work.  Using this simple time management practice, you’ll “find time” to focus more on your career and ability to learn.

We Don’t Know What We Don’t Know

When I ask my clients where their time goes, I usually hear the normal stuff like meetings, phone calls,  kids, etc..  If I ask more specifically “how much” time goes to each of these areas, the answers are not so clear and confident.  It’s hard to drive from Texas to California without knowing how much fuel you have, how fast you’re going, or if you’re going the right direction.  We’ll slow down when we know that we’re speeding.  If we’re running out of fuel, then we’ll stop for gas.  We change our course when we realize we’re going the wrong direction.  The critical point here is that we will make good decisions when we have the information to guide us.  What could you be doing with your career if you knew your time was not aligned to your goals?

The critical point here is that we will make good decisions when we have the information to guide us.

Shine a Light on Where Your Time is Going

If you find difficulty in explaining how much time you spend in the various areas of life, then start logging it.  This information adds value to everyone that’s willing to take the action.  Rarely have I worked with someone that did not see a trend they could change to free up needed time.  Using a calendar as part of your time management practice will do most of the work for you.  If you’re already organized and have this information, then use tip 2 to make sure you’re getting all of it.  It does not take much time to log your hours and you only need to do it long enough to learn from the trends and take action.  There are hours in your day just waiting to be “found” with this tip.  Commit to log your time today and “find time” you’re desperately looking for!

Use Your Lists Like a Compass

This tip improves the probability that we’re working on the right tasks and less distracted by the potential tasks we could work on in the moment.  We can always spend our time doing something and in the office we will find something to do that feels productive. The question is if it’s going to make the most impact?  Using a list to guide where we’re investing time is invaluable.  Do this to stay organized and free up time by helping you not spend it in areas that do not add the most value.

Look at Your Lists Daily

It’s not good enough to have a list.  You have to review it regularly, or it will not serve you.  The same problem exists with your speedometer.  If it only showed your speed once an hour, then you would stop looking at it.  The information we use to make decisions needs to be ready when we’re ready. This means it has to be granular enough and available when the time comes or we will ignore it.

Schedule Your Daily Review

If you’ve not figured it out yet, you need to schedule this on your calendar with tip number 2 “Schedule Your Work”.  If you learn to make time to review your lists you’ll “find time” that you did not realize was there.  This is more of an organization activity for me, but it helps avoid wasting time as well as some of the best time management practices. My career trajectory changed and never looked back when I made this part of how I operate and I’ve watched it work for many others as well.

Don’t be a Pleaser

Can you come to this meeting?  Help me work on these slides?  Will you make this call for me?  Can you help me learn…?  Any of these sound familiar?  In coaching I often find many managers and executives don’t know when or how to say no.  The question to ask yourself is what’s at risk if you say yes?  The power of no can free up vast amounts of time.  We all enjoy helping others, pleasing our friends, being available to our boss, etc..  I’m not telling you to say no to everyone, but start getting into the habit of questioning whether it’s the best use of your time.  How will your calendar be impacted if you say yes?  Is there room or do you need to make it?  What can be pushed and what cannot?

Take a Stand

Delegate to your directs if you’re a manager.  If you’re an individual contributor, then negotiate other times or look for alternatives.  Regardless of your role, consider just saying “no”.  This practice becomes very powerful as you become more organized from using the other tips.   An old manager of mine once told his peers and boss that nobody told him no more than myself.  I always explain the risks if I say yes, so he and I were able to have an informed conversation weighing the pros and cons together.  You’ll “find time” little by little as you learn to effectively use this tip.  Including this benefit, Entrepreneur Magazine has a good list of five benefits from this practice alone.  This is a critical time management practice and one that any manager of people needs to adopt now!  Do your career a favor and practice using “No” starting this week.

• Time is the most valuable thing we have
• Time management is one of the most valuable things you can do
• You’ll never “find” the time, so be more effective with what you have
• Commit to practicing at least one of these until it becomes a habit
• Read my series on self-awareness to learn more about how to create new habits
• The ROI on time management makes up for the lack of excitement

 

 

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